Participation Guidelines

Trans* Lounge is for Trans*/GNC/ENBY and all members of the gender expansive communities only. While we celebrate and appreciate Allies, please understand that for the comfort and safety of our members, membership & participation in Trans* Lounge groups and classes is specifically for Trans*/GNC/ENBY and all members of the gender expansive communities. We encourage all our Allies to support through Volunteering with the Center (Volunteer – Los Angeles LGBT Center (lalgbtcenter.org) or find support for themselves at partner organizations (Transforming Family).

These rules apply to all Trans* Lounge groups, classes, and events and are for the safety and comfort of all participants and we take them VERY seriously. Failure to adhere to these guidelines may result in you being asked to leave the space.

Make Space, Take Space: This is a space for all of us. Please share to the degree that is comfortable for you but please make room for others to share as well.

Only Use “I” Statements: Speak only from your own experiences. DO NOT make assumptions or generalizations of other people’s experiences. ALL experiences are unique and valid. You are the expert on YOU and you alone!

Be mindful of what you bring into the space and how you do it: Words matter! Be thoughtful of your words and the affect they can have on others in the group. Some topics can be heavy, triggering or difficult. We ask that you give verbal trigger warning that names your content and allow space for folx to decide for themselves if they want to participate in the topic. If you choose to opt out of a certain discussion, we will make accommodations for you. This is meant to be a safe space for all.

Lean into discomfort. Meetings and topics can sometimes be challenging: We invite you to expand your comfort-zone and experience some uncomfortable growth within the discussion. Be mindful of your capacity in the moment. Pushing your boundaries can open your mind to new and exciting perspectives but it is important to balance that with self-care.

Hear Something, Say Something. If something is said during group that is triggering or problematic for you, we need you to let us know. You can say something verbally, in the chat or via private message to a facilitator and we will address your concerns. We want all participants to feel safe and welcome at all times.

Be Mindful of Giving and Receiving Advice. We are here to uplift and support our community members, but support can feel different to different folx. Always ask if someone is open to receiving advice before you share. And on the flip side, please let us know the support you would like to receive from us while you are sharing; whether that is just holding space to be heard or if you would like to receive feedback or advice.

Be Mindful of Pronouns and Gendered Language. Nothing is worse than being misgendered in a safe space. We require all participants to always be mindful of using correct pronouns. Pronouns are visible in each participant’s Zoom video panel so please take note and be respectful. Also, be aware of antiquated gendered language like “You guys”, “Brothers & Sisters” and “Ladies and Gentlemen”. Our community is VERY gender expansive and we are making space and celebrating all identities beyond the binary.

Respect confidentiality. Assume that stories and comments shared at meetings should remain private. What is said in this room, stays in this room!!!

These guidelines are for the comfort and safety of all our members and participants. If you have any questions or concerns, please reach out to us at: [email protected]